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Brutally honest people of reddit, how does your honesty fuck you over?
Main Post: Brutally honest people of reddit, how does your honesty fuck you over?
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The problem with a lot of people who call themselves "brutally honest" ( I was once in this boat) is that they take it as a carte blanche to act like a tactless asshole. You can still be honest about your intentions and opinions while retaining common courtesy and a modicum of self-respect.
What's the line between a brutally-honest friend and a toxic friend?
Main Post: What's the line between a brutally-honest friend and a toxic friend?
Top Comment: Are they "brutally honest" with you in public? Pointing out your flaws in front of others as if they're trying to embarrass you? Toxic. Are they pontificating about your "flaws" almost as if they were saying "being you? wrong, be more like me"? Disregarding the intricacies and differences of both of your personalities? Toxic. Do they say mean shit about their friends with you? They say mean shit about you behind your back.
Reddit, what is so hard about being honest?
Main Post: Reddit, what is so hard about being honest?
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It's not being honest that's hard. I think the difficulty lies in expressing yourself honestly without being harsh or rude. Tact is hard for a lot of people.
Be honest reddit, what is your greatest personal flaw?
Main Post: Be honest reddit, what is your greatest personal flaw?
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Lazy/unmotivated.
A gentle reminder to those people who pride themselves on being "brutally honest," or "telling it like it is."
Main Post: A gentle reminder to those people who pride themselves on being "brutally honest," or "telling it like it is."
Top Comment: The real problem is that the two aren't mutually exclusive. People tend to believe they are.
People of Reddit, what's a brutal honesty you would like to share with the world?
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Edit: OH MY LORD IM ON THE FRONT PAGE OF ASKREDDIT
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Most of the people on this site aren't nearly as smart as they'd like to believe.
How being honest changed my life
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I was a compulsive liar since I was a teenager. I would lie constantly, for no reason, and multiple times per conversation.
Lying definitely makes it a lot easier to get what you want in the short term. But you never really get anything that lasts. I didn't have a single friend up until a year ago and no relationships that lasted longer than a month or 2. It became impossible to because I would feed them so much bs that if they got any closer I would be exposed. Once this guy I worked with made a comment like "you can't trust a word that comes out of this guy's mouth". That hurt a lot.
It seriously did not occur me that the people who had the misfortune of being forced to be around me thought I was a lying pos. Like I really fucking thought I was a slick bastard but apparently people saw right through me. I decided to make a change because I just could not stand being that person anymore. I decided to be honest. It was really tough at first because my brain was basically wired to say things that I believed would make this person like me, regardless of the truth. Maybe the root of it was that I was insecure about myself and thought that no one would want to be around the real me. I found out that was not the case at all.
Shortly after I made my first ever friend, now best friend. I did lie about some things at first but I came clean eventually. For the first time in my life I was completely honest with someone. I made amends with everyone in my life I'd been fucking with and let them know I still wanted them in my life.
I told my ultra religious parents that I'm an atheist and made them cry. I'd been faking being religious since forever. I'm so happy I did that, because they still love me for some reason and now I don't need to live a double life. Finally I started to have deep relationships with people, being honest does that. Because the person I was lying to the most was myself. I was a piece of shit that was somehow a decent person in his head. Now I'm really a decent person, and life is wonderful, and I feel loved.
Top Comment: Good move dude, honesty makes life so much easier to navigate in the long run. I always find myself falling on the right side of any given situation by just being honest with the people around me, you’ll gain their respect and when the going gets tough they’ll back you.
Just being honest
Main Post: Just being honest
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I DON"T WORK AT AMAZON. UNSUBSCRIBE ME FROM YOUR PAGE.
I have decided to practice Radical Honesty in my life, as of 2 hours ago. AmA
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Radical honesty entails telling the truth to people under every circumstance, even when it might be uncomfortable to do so. I am sick of lying to people, and walking on eggshells around them. In doing this, I hope to gain deeper relationships with people, such that in every friendship/relationship I'm in, both people know where the other person stands.
I feel like I'm going to alienate a lot of people, but also strengthen a lot of my existing friendships. For example: I'm worried I might distance my relationship with my girlfriend, for example, because we have only been dating 2 months and I've been playing it cool but when she finds out how much I really care for her...our relationship will either break or grow a lot stronger. Time will tell.
Also, brutal honesty is exhilarating and liberating. Ask anything you want.
Top Comment: Just fucking smile. The best advice I've ever heard in my life was from an old movie. There's a speech in the end where children are graduating school, and they get the town pastor to give the commencement speech and he says simply: Love who you love and don't worry about whether they love you back. Truth is, neither you, nor I, or anyone can control anyone else. Be happy and you'll notice the people around you will be happy too. As for this radical honesty, just don't talk to the cops please.
What's the most brutally honest thing a child has ever said to you?
Main Post: What's the most brutally honest thing a child has ever said to you?
Top Comment: I work at an after school program with kids aged 5-12. I had recently had a miscarriage and told the kids I was no longer pregnant because they were excited about me giving birth in the future. I tried to let them know that "my baby stopped growing and it passed away in my tummy." Some of them were pretty bummed out after hearing the news. When I was leaving at the end of the day, I was saying bye to a few of them and one of the second graders who adores me yelled out "Sorry again about your dead baby!" For some reason it made me laugh instead of any other emotion. After so much crying from the actual miscarriage, I started cracking up and just said thank you.